Tuesday, September 27, 2016

Learn based on Real Life

Learn based on Real Life
Learning process is not only based on textbooks.Nowadays it is essential for the students to learn more beyond their text books and know the way to practically apply the things that they learn in the real life.
In this situation, it is necessary for the educational institutions to add experiential learning in their curriculum. In simple terms experiential learning can be stated as experience based learning, creation of knowledge by transforming experience and it is about application knowledge.
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Experiential learning cycle involves:-
* Concrete experience
* Reflective observation
* Abstract conceptualization
* Active experimentation
Experiential learning will help the students to know their area of interest as they are able to learn what they do. Schools have to teach problem solving skills to the students and ways to handle real life situations from young age itself. Teachers and parents have to encourage the students to find different solutions for specific problems. As experience teaches more than anything, students will be able to know their strength and weakness.
Teachers need to make the students what they learn by exhibiting real time examples. Students have to be given different roles and tasks which will enable them to develop their skills. Teachers has to have a good relationship with the students, guide them, listen to what the students says and help them in making decisions.
In this learning, students also must be cooperative to achieve the real goal. Students have to actively take part in the experience based learning. They must have the ability to reflect on the experience, use analytical skills to conceptualize the experience, have decision making and problem solving skills. This will enable them to gain knowledge from the experience.
Make use of experiential learning inorder to enable the students to handle the real life situations with confidence and enhance their knowledge.

As an individual we have different nature and thoughts, similarly our learning style differ. Learning is must for everyone to succeed in life. It is required to know what is happening around us, analyzing things and for innovations. All have liking towards learning but understand the concepts differently.
Learning is continuous process and there is no end. Everyone have follow own way by which they learn. Some learn best by practical observation, some prefer theory concepts while some like to memorize information.  Some people feels that their learning is effective when they study in calm place while some prefer to study listening to music and noise doesn't distract them. 
There are many such circumstances that determine our way of learning. When you realize that your learning is effective by seeing pictures or images then your learning comes under visual style. These kinds of learners struggle with verbal direction and easily get distracted with noise. Then it comes auditory learners, who learn well by hearing and speaking. These kinds of people are very jovial and talkative but are slow learners and find difficulty in writing. They are good voice recognizers.
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People who learn best by moving around and deal with physical objects come under Kinesthetic learning style. They find difficult to sit for long hours in one place and struggle with reading. These kinds of learners generally like outdoor work and are very coordinated. Some learn good by writing and fall under verbal style who learn by reading books and take notes. They too find difficult with verbal direction and get distracted by noise. Like that there are many learning style like some are good in logical studies, some prefer to study in group while the some other prefer self study.
We have different insight thus it is quite essential for us to know which learning style suit us to the best. Knowing your learning style will enables you to develop deep understanding on the concepts.

Saturday, August 13, 2016

Unconditional Love: The Key To Lasting Relationships

“Love… What is love? Love is to love someone for who they are, who they were, and who they will be.” ~Chris Moore
Have you ever been in a relationship where you felt it was the other person’s job to make you happy, to meet all of your needs, to understand you and know what you want without asking?
Or have you been on the other side of this scenario? You were the partner expected to fulfill the other person and manage their happiness.

Either situation is perpetually frustrating. One partner never feels happy and content in the relationship because they are looking to the other person to perform the impossible.
And the other partner feels unappreciated and overwhelmed by the inexhaustible emotional demands and needs of the other.
Sometimes this situation plays out where both partners expect the other to fulfill them and “make” them happy. They are in a perpetual stand-off of neediness and frustration leading to disengagement in the relationship.
Lasting relationships simply cannot be built upon a partnership in which one or both people are seeking a host organism to provide emotional and psychological nourishment.

Lasting relationships require unconditional love.
The term “unconditional love” might imply that one does attempt to meet all of the needs of the other, to read their minds, to accept and overlook all of the partner’s behaviors and actions no matter how selfish or demanding.
But this is not unconditional love. This is co-dependent love. It’s not grounded in a healthy foundation of self-respect and respect for the unique individual sharing the relationship with you.
What is unconditional love?
Unconditional love in a relationship begins with oneself. To set the foundation for a lasting, healthy relationship, you must first have a strong sense of self-esteem and self-confidence. This doesn’t mean you never have emotional difficulties or don’t need support and extra attention at times.
But you do need to feel generally good about yourself, to like yourself, and to recognize the positive qualities you bring to a relationship. It also means you can stand on your own two feet as an individual without requiring a romantic partner to define you or complete you. You can be together with someone and still remain fully yourself — as a person you like and respect.

If you need to improve your self-esteem or don’t feel confident in yourself as a capable, valuable person, then your relationship will suffer. Your insecurities will have an impact on your partner and on your mutual happiness. The best thing you can do for your relationship is to learn to love yourself. Offering unconditional love to yourself means you are able to view yourself as lovable and worthy — in spite of any perceived flaws or past mistakes. You can read more about self-love in this post.
Within the relationship itself, unconditional love is the ability to love the other person as they are in their essence. If you have fallen in love with this person and want to build a lasting relationship with them, then you must view them as a unique individual — not as an extension of yourself.
When you find someone who loves you as you are, and you are able to love them as they are,  it is an amazing experience. They may be different from you in many ways. They may view the world differently and have habits that you don’t share, but you can embrace these differences because they are part of this unique person you love.
But is love enough to build a lasting relationship? And does unconditional love mean that no matter what your partner does, your feelings don’t change?
The answer is “no” to both.

Unconditional love within the context of a good relationship is a dance in which both partners participate. You begin with the essentials of self-love and mutual love and respect. You see and embrace the core of the other, their innate personality and worldview. You acknowledge the influences of their upbringing, life experiences, and ingrained behaviors.
But . . . unconditional love within the context of a lasting relationship requires lots of wiggle room. As part of self-love, you know your own personal boundaries and the limits of what you find to be acceptable and healthy behaviors and reactions from your beloved.
According to Dr. Jeremy Nicholson, personality psychologist and relationship consultant, it is your job in the relationship to “use your influence in a caring and disciplined manner to create a balanced exchange with your partner. Such skills are not exercised to ‘control’ or ‘manipulate’ for selfish gain, but rather to maintain a mutually-beneficial and satisfying partnership.”
When both partners are aware of their personal boundaries and are committed to communicating them in loving and non-threatening ways, then the relationship can continue to recalibrate and grow ever stronger over the years.
With the ability to communicate openly, negotiate willingly, and compromise and make adjustments, you can build a strong relationship in which unconditional love develops and grows more satisfying over time.

For both partners, unconditional love means putting the health of the relationship above all else. This is a conscious decision made by both people, and it requires . . .
·         regular and open communication;
·         active and engaged listening skills;
·         a willingness to calmly express concerns or hurts;
·         a willingness to make behavior adjustments that don’t compromise your boundaries;
·         a willingness to communicate boundaries;
·         the ability to accept and even embrace personality differences that don’t compromise the health of the relationship;
·         a willingness to continue to work on your own self-awareness and self-esteem;
·         complete trust that your partner “has your back” and you have theirs;
·         the ability to forgive and forget, especially when forgiveness is requested for flaws and failures and there’s a real effort to make change;
·         the firm commitment never to withhold love (or sex or money, etc.) to get what you want or need;
·         the desire to express your love with small daily actions and words;
·         the decision to let go of the “small stuff” that might bug you so you can focus on the best aspects of your partner;
·         the willingness to show extra love and have patience with your partner when they go through periods of difficulty, sadness, or disconnection, knowing it’s a short-lived condition;
·         loving the other for the joy of loving, without thought for what you will get in return.
Unconditional love is more intricate and complicated than simply loving your partner “no matter what.” Unconditional love requires stepping back and seeing the bigger picture of your partnership and how to maintain the health of the relationship so that love can continue to thrive and grow.
The first step toward loving your partner unconditionally is learning to love yourself unconditionally. It requires understanding and communicating your own boundaries and limits, yet being flexible enough to adapt and compromise when possible.

And most of all, it requires a daily mutual commitment to maintaining the health of the relationship and nurturing the bonds of love that brought you together in the first place.

How are you expressing unconditional love in your relationship? Where do you need to focus more attention in order to nourish the relationship and the love you share with your partner — and yourself? Please share your thoughts in the comments.

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14th march, 2016

Monday, August 1, 2016

Sudhu tumi by MELON.

Sudhu tumi....

Importance of Trust and Love in any successful relationship::::

A relationship is easy to make but it is so hard to make that relationship stronger and lasting. A long lasting relationship is very easy to establish if we put the spirit of trust and love in our hearts.because love and trust is the requirement in a relationship to make it lasting. When these two character leaves from our relation then that relation becomes weak. Relationship is the only thing on the basis of which the whole human being is lasting so if we think logically we can see that strong relationship gives born to a enjoyable living.among different types of relationship there are some specific relationship which should be strong and lasting to lead a better life.like we must hope to last the relationship within our family or with our spouse. We should treat this relationship seriously in order to build a lasting, happy, strong and enjoyable partnership.
The two characters- LOVE and TRUST
Firstly Love
love is nothing but the greatest gift in the whole world. We can not define love specific. But we the people misuse the word "love". We misinterpret love with possessiveness and jealousy.love is of different types. Each unique relationship has its own type of love. Like love in the relationship between husband and wife, friends, classmates family etc. any person loves to share the blessings with anyone whom the person choose to spend his lifetime with. Love connects with our hearts. Love is the feeling which can be felt when it comes or lost. For the reason of love we walk towards anyone. When we love anyone from the bottom of our heart we give everything of our self instead of asking. Love is also a bridge .like a bridge connects one side of a river with another side as love is a bridge of the hearts. We communicate with others to make a bridge between the differences of our personalities with our partner. We create a bond with our partner and as a result we become one instead of two. We accept all the thinking of our partner though we know that our personality is different from one another. There is only one word in the world which has no definition and explanation is the word "love".


Secondly Trust
Protecting the  love is the  trust as the second requirement of a lasting relationship. When we love anyone then we trust him or her. Trust is the implied value of a relationship. We choose to trust our partner only for this trust. Trust is that thing which is broken on time is broken forever. Sometimes we think that trust can be picked up again but it is not true. When we lose trust from anyone we can not gain trust about him easily.trust should be maintained by each side of a relationship. Rebuilding trust is the hardest work in life. It can be compared with a glass. When a glass is broken it's pieces can be picked up and can be joined again but the perfect glass can never be maid because the sign of broken pieces will alive. As trust is broken one time it can be rebuild after a long run and hard work but the sing of breaking trust will alive forever so it should be kept in mind that the trust should never be broken at any cost.because trust is the value within our self, is the character related with ourselves.one must trust one's partner but it does not mean that one will be passive. One must show to his partner that his trust should be respected by the partner. Losing trust is the first step of losing love. Any person can not continue loving to ensure that his trust is safe. Because when we love anyone we give respect to him, we let him enjoy his freedom, let him enjoy his life, we give him everything.and for exchange that person should also give the respect to our trust.
Trust is both reason of love and result of love. To make a relationship strong and lasting both love and trust is necessary.we should make such relationship where the freedom and happiness will exists.each and everyone wants such partner whom he can love and trust.so we must give importance to love and trust in our relationship and life.

14th march.2016